Keep it to yourself

So there is this thing that has been bothering me for a while now. I was trying to ignore it but it keeps happening over and over again. I don't have the thickest skin and I tend to get my feeling hurt easily. My husband has a pretty big family and I am not positive but I could guess that some of them are a little bothered by the fact that his wife and child are not 100% black. Now granted no one has ever been anything but nice to me, but I am the first white person in his family and I can imagine that can be hard to deal with. Especially when you then bring in a child that is mixed and may not look quite like the rest of the family. Now I think that my child looks like a great mixture of both my husband and I. She has his face shape and eyes but she favors me in the lips and nose. It does not bother me in the least when people say "Oh she looks just like her Daddy". I mean she should look a lot like him, she is 1/2 of him, and she is 1/2 of me. What does bother me is when people say "Oh she looks just like ________ (insert some other family member from his side who had NO part in making her). I mean I figure they are just trying to identify with her as part of the family but she DOES NOT look JUST like his great grandmother Edith or is Aunt Patty (I made those names up of course). She looks like me and she looks like him. Not his family. HIM. End of story and no I don't want to see a picture of cousin Greta as a baby to see how much they look alike. She is MY child. thank.you.very.much.now.shut.IT.
Maybe I shouldn't let this bother me so much but I would never go around telling someone that their kid looked JUST like his aunt or uncle or cousin. He looks like himself and maybe favors his mom and dad. You know the people that MADE HIM. GGGGAAAAAAAAA
MY child. She looks like these 2 people. PERIOD. If you think she looks like someone else then keep it to yourself, because this mom doesn't give a rats a@@ about your opinion.

3 months (and 13 weeks)



Happy 3 month birthday little one!!
Today you are 3 months into your life and Mommy and Daddy couldn't be happier. You are such a good baby (most of the time) and the light of our lives. You are growing and learning by leaps and bounds.
"Talking" is your favorite thing to do these days. Especially while you are simultaneously trying to shove both of your hands/fists into your mouth. It is pretty amusing and sometimes quite LOUD! I am sure you will be one of those babies that loves nothing more than to squeal in delight just to hear the sound of your own voice. Mommy is very much looking forward to being that annoying family that everyone is staring at in a crowded restaurant (sarcasm of course).
You are growing out of your 0 to 3 month clothes and starting to wear some of your 3-6 month stuff. It depends on the brand though since some of your 0-3 still fits. At night most of your pjs are 3-6.
You are doing great in the cloth diapers that you wear at night. Pretty soon it will be 100% cloth since we are on the last box of diapers that we had and after those are gone it is all cloth or cloth hybrids. As far as sposies go you are in size 2 now.

Your naps are okay. Some days you will take 2 or 3 hours each time I put you down and then other days you won't sleep for more than 30 minutes. You still wake up once at night to eat but Mommy is fine with that.
Mommy is no longer pumping so as of today you are going to eat the rest of the milk in the freezer and then it is formula all the way. Of course Mommy was hoping you would be on only breast milk for your first 6 months but things don't always work out that way and you seem to do great on the formula so besides the cost all is well with that.
You have discovered Sophie your giraffe. You never seemed to care for her before (and Mommy was hoping you would lover her cuz man was she an expensive toy) and you finally have started noticing her. You still don't have the coordination to hold her and bring her to your mouth but if Mommy or Daddy holds her up to your face you will use your fists to push her in your mouth and gum her. I think you like the sound she makes when the rubber rubs on your gums. You love to make all kinds of loud sounds while you are gumming her and you actually got mad the other day when Mommy took her away.

You still love your jumpy chair thing and your play mat and Mommy and Daddy have started putting on cartoons for you to watch and sometimes you seem pretty interested in them. Especially Yo Gabba Gabba and the Backyardagins. Oh and BTW little one you are NOT allowed to ever watch Spongebob. Mommy can not deal with that stupid little square sponge. EVER.
On a sad note your Aunt Angela has decided to move to NYC. Mommy is very sad about this. Not only because her sister is moving 12+ hours away but because she will not be around as much for you to get to know her. Mommy is secretly hoping that she hates it and decides to come back soon but I doubt it since I know her very well. I just hope she gets a good job where she can afford to fly back a lot so you can know her. I think having your family around is very important and I want you to be able to know all of yours. I guess if we look at the bright side we now have an excuse to travel to NYC. Mommy has been there a few times and it is a great place to visit so I know you will enjoy that.

Well Happy 3 months my little bogerhead. I love you very much and can't wait to see what adventures the next 3 months (and beyond) bring us.

RIP

My step grandfather passed away a few days ago. He has been sick for a very long time (like the entire time my mom and step dad have been married 16+ years). Unfortunately it is just too much for me to try and travel with a 3 month old to go to his funeral. He has had diabetes his entire life and as of late just did not take care of himself. He has been in and out of the hospital with all kinds of problems for the past few months. He got an infection that caused part of his foot to have to be removed. He got MRSA and could not even get out of bed at the end. My step grandmother was by his side the whole time and held his hand when he died. We have never been very close to my step dad's family. They are not the most affectionate people and did not approve of my marriage (you know the whole black/white thing). They are just very set in their ways and that is how it is. However I am sad that he had to suffer and it is a relief for the family that he is no longer in pain. RIP Grandpa Lewis.

12 weeks


Happy 12 weeks little one!
You have been really good this week! WOOHOO! Your sleeping is great and you have been doing much better with your nap time (man I hope I don't jinx myself typing that). I guess all you needed was a little more food to keep you satisfied. Speaking of food Mommy is sad to report the end of the pumping/breast milk era is upon us. I have just not been getting much at all when I pump and none of the medicines that I tried to help increase my supply have helped. Plus it is just so time consuming and generally annoying! I have cut back to just pumping in the morning and after you have gone to bed. I guess I will continue that until I am not getting anything and then I will be done. I have been pumping now for longer than I breastfed you so I guess that is a good accomplishment. You are doing great on the formula so that is good. One less thing for Mommy to be worried about.

This week you have really started to enjoy standing while being held. You actually try and pull yourself up when Daddy or I hold your hands. You also love your jump n play thingy. You go CRAZY on it! Bouncing all around and laughing and smiling and gurgling. It probably also helps that is it right near the TV and we put on cartoons and you go to town watching them and bouncing around. It is so funny Daddy and I just sit on the couch and watch you and laugh.
You are definitely a child that needs structure and consistency. You do best when we follow the same schedule every day. That is great for Mommy and I am so glad that you decided to set a schedule for yourself.
We went over to some friends of Mommies this week to visit and you had a great time. You were a perfect angel. You played and napped and ate and did great! Soon you will be old/big enough to play with their little boy. Mommy can't wait for that fun adventure.

You smile all the time and love to talk more and more every day! You also get mad and poke out your lower lip if Mommy or Daddy ignores you when you are talking and you start your fake cry until you get the attention you deserve. (Mommy needs to try and get a picture of it but as soon as you see the camera you know you are getting attention and you stop pouting).
You FINALLY like bath time!!!!! No more screaming!!!! Mommy could not be happier. All of a sudden on Saturday morning I went to give you your normal bath and I prepared myself for the screaming that ensues as soon as you realize you are getting out. It never happened. You just were looking around and gurgling up a storm. You even gave me a few smiles while I was toweling you off and putting on your lotion. I don't know where this came from but I hope it is here to stay! Hurray for stress free bath time. Now maybe you will get clean more often.

Love,
Mommy and Daddy

11 weeks


Happy 11 weeks my little one.
Sorry this is late but yesterday was not a day for blogging. You were in a mood yesterday. You refused to nap for longer than 20 minutes at a time. Even when Mommy took you out shopping which has always worked to put you to sleep. THEN you decided you did not want to go to bed. You have been going to bed at 9pm for weeks now and last night I put you down at 9 and you woke up after 30 minutes. This continued for 4 more tries til I finally fed you some more and tried it one more time. FINALLY at 11:30 you fell asleep and slept til 5:45. I did everything to make sure you were okay. I changed your diaper, I checked your temp, made sure you weren't hurting or cold or hot. You just wanted to scream! It was a very rough day. Not to mention you would not give Daddy a smile when he got home from work. He was very sad about that!
Today you are a little better but still not in a great mood although you did sleep for 45 minutes and you are currently down for a nap right now. Hopefully for a few hours, you need it!
As for this week not much has changed. You are still "talking" up a storm and you love to talk to your toys and the dogs and to Mommy and Daddy. You still have not rolled over but you are holding your head up higher and better, although you do not like tummy time for very long!
We found out that you like to "sit" on Mommy and Daddies bed and look around. Maybe you miss being in there since we moved you to your room. You like to be propped up and then you just stare at everything.

You also like to watch TV. Maybe it is the color changes or the movement but it can keep you entertained for a while.
Your Godmother Jeni was in ton last week so we spent some time with her going shopping and hanging out. You have started staying awake more when we are out and about. You usually end up falling asleep after a while but you use to stay asleep the whole time. You have been showing some interest in Sophie the Giraffe lately, and you have been trying to grab at your toys a little more now. Hopefully soon you will be able to grab and hold on to your toys and keep yourself a little more entertained. Right now you only have about a 15 minute window until you are done with whatever you were doing and have had enough of it. You defiantly have no issues letting us know when you are done!!

Mommy and Daddy love you and we are so excited to watch you grow and learn little bogger head!
Love Mommy

no nap


Say hello to my blogging buddy for today AKA: I am not going to take a nap no matter what you do!!!! Needless to say it has been a very grumpy day in our household.

10 weeks


Happy 10 weeks my little chunker!
Man you have chunked up. You are getting little rolls all over now. You are doing much better with the sleeping at night and naps. Sometimes you still fight your naps but you are doing so great at night! Going to bed some time around 9pm and sleeping until about 5 and then back down until 8ish. You do get very fussy when it comes to nap time, and sometimes your naps are only 30 min. Hopefully they will get a little longer soon.
Mommy and Daddy took you out for Mexican the other day. You use to just sleep in your car seat when we were out to eat but not anymore! Now you don't want to miss any of the action so we have to hold you the whole time we are there. Makes for some difficulty eating since you have started trying to grab at everything. You were eyeing Daddies rice so we decided to have some fun taking pics.


You have started really watching to TV. I know bad habit. The other day Mommy was watching Jon and Kate plus 8 reruns and you were enthralled. You were probably use to hearing it in utero since Mommy watched it all the time.

You have also decided that a black and white rattle is your favorite toy right now. You will stare at it and talk to it you have even started grabbing for it and moving it around. It keeps you entertained longer than most things (so maybe 15 minutes). Sometimes it feels like Mommy is constantly trying to find things to keep you entertained your attention span is so short. You do like your swing again which is good! You actually took a nap in it the other day. It has been weeks since you did that!

Mommy decided last night to try out your cloth diapers since you tend to wet through your diapers at night. It was a FAIL! You were soaking wet at 5 when you woke up. I am going to try some of the other kinds you have and see if they work better. Plus your little bottom was so big with those things on. Hopefully we can figure something out since Mommy plans on putting you in all cloth in a few weeks! Gotta save money some how.

Well you are waking up from your nap so Mommy has to cut this short but both Mommy and Daddy love you very much little one!

Love, Mommy

Aunt Angela's birthday


Taking Aunt Angela out for Indian food for her birthday!! Addison gives it a thumbs up!

Then we went to the Aquarium where Aunt Angela works to walk around in the cool.

Meeting some of Aunt Angela's coworkers.

Posing in front of the Aquarium with the new Cooper River Bridge in the background.